This year has brought hardships unlike anything we have collectively experienced and thus, requires new ways of approaching life and death. It is a tough time to be alone, or to feel alone.

We all need support sometimes. We all need connection.

We at the Virtual Death Doula Network, Inc. understand the difficulties one faces when coming to terms with death and dying, whether it be one’s own mortality or that of a loved one. We are here to support those dealing with anxiety related to death and grief regardless of where they are in their own life journey. Death, dying and grief can be heavy, confusing and intimidating topics to deal with, and it is our mission to aid in making sense of it all. We are here to assist those supporting someone in the dying process, and to help with any and all necessary parts, including your self-care and emotional and spiritual well-being.

Are you experiencing anxiety related to illness, death or dying?

Do you know someone who is sick or dying?

Are you struggling with grief?

Has a death or illness affected your sense of well-being?

 

The doulas at the Virtual Death Doula Network are here to help you.


 

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We are offering 15 minutes of complimentary messaging time with one of our doulas to discuss whatever is on your mind related to grief, death and dying. We provide live closed-caption transcripts via Zoom for those with hearing loss. If you would like to speak with us beyond that, please make an appointment. We conduct appointments via messaging, phone or Zoom. We typically work in 30 to 60 minute increments on a “pay what you will“ basis  (Suggested rate: $45/half hour).

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Let’s Talk About Grief

Grief is highly personal and unique to each individual

 

  • There is no timeline and no wrong/right way to grieve

  • Conflicting emotions are okay (and typical)

  • It’s okay not to cry immediately (or continuously)... there is no timeline on tears

  • Grief may be experienced in a number of different ways (emotionally, physically, socially, behaviorally, spiritually, intellectually)

Emotions/feelings may be erratic, confusing and/or misplaced and may include:

  • Shock/Numbness/Denial

  • Anxiety/Fear/Panic

  • Loss/Emptiness/Loneliness

  • Sadness/Depression

  • Hurt/Frustration

  • Helplessness/Hopelessness

  • Explosive emotions

  • Resentment/Guilt/Regret

  • Relief/Emancipation/Peacefulness​​​​

Physical symptoms may include:

  • Fatigue/sleep difficulty

  • GI symptoms

  • Muscle aches and pains

  • Chest pains and pressure

  • Headaches

  • Tension, Agitation, Anxiety - Shaking, Heart Palpitations

Social symptoms may include:

  • Feeling withdrawn

  • Fearfulness of being alone

  • Dependent/clingy behavior

  • Surrounding self with others as a form of distraction

  • Irritability and moodiness

  • Changes in role, status, family system

Behavioral symptoms may include:

  • Absent-mindedness

  • Crying and sobbing

  • Restlessness

  • Trying to ‘stay busy’

  • Avoiding reminders of the dying/deceased

  • Experiencing sudden, overwhelming grief

Spiritual symptoms may include:

  • Searching for meaning

  • Asking ‘Why’

  • Mystical experiences

  • Anger and other confusing emotions towards God

  • Comfort from God

  • Using rituals to heal

  • Prayer and meditation

Intellectual symptoms may include:

  • Disbelief/denial

  • Confusion

  • Preoccupation with the dying/deceased

  • Inability to focus/concentrate

  • Memory problems

  • Emptiness or heaviness

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Let’s Talk About Death and Dying

  • It’s okay to feel strange or uncomfortable talking about death and dying.

  • How to talk to the dying (it’s okay to feel uncertain or even uncomfortable)

  • How to be present with the dying.

  • It’s okay to not know about  or understand the dying process… that’s part of why we’re here

  • We will support you so you may better support your loved one

  • Stages of Death

  • End-of-life energy/space/atmosphere (what to expect as someone approaches their final days)

  • When death comes quickly or is unexpected

  • Acceptance

  • Anything that comes up for you as an individual

We Can Also Help You with the Logistics of Dying

The onset of the COVID-19 pandemic sometimes requires people to quickly navigate unfamiliar spaces. We can help you or your loved ones have the uncomfortable conversations surrounding topics like

 

  • Advanced directives

  • Do Not Resuscitate (DNR) orders

  • Wills

  • Powers of Attorney (Legal and/or Medical)

  • Legacy Projects

  • Arrangements for care and rehoming of pets

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